Two brides, two grooms, or one of each.       Dan can help you create a ceremony that reflects what is most meaningful to you as a couple.      Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

    Two brides, two grooms, or one of each. 
     Dan can help you create a ceremony that reflects what is most meaningful to you as a couple.

    Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

Your wedding should be:

  • Joyful—celebrating a landmark of your love

  • Memorable—reflecting you as a unique couple

  • Inclusive—joining your friends & families

Do you want:

  • An occasion that’s uniquely yours – not scripted or formulaic? 

  • A ritual involving practices from diverse traditions?

  • A ceremony that is secular, or perhaps spiritual but outside mainstream religious tradition?

  • To bridge faiths or cultural traditions in a way that is respectful, yet  authentically your own?

Let's make it happen!

Contact Dan to explore the possibilities.
There's no cost or obligation.

 

Let's make your wedding one to remember!

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 After signing your marriage certificate, Dan will register it with  county officials.

After signing your marriage certificate, Dan will register it with  county officials.

Your wedding is, at heart, a piece of theater.

Even a simple, completely secular ceremony should convey a sense of occasion—something special is happening!

Your guests should come away saying, "That was fun and lovely—and it was totally THEM!"

Let's create something special.

I can share other couples' ceremonies to get your creative juices flowing. And you have your own ideas, of course. 

  • Like a certain reading? Let's use it.

  • How can we adapt these vows to make them yours?

  • Want to include rituals such as a unity candle or hand-fasting? Done!

  • Can we stay authentic to your own beliefs while respecting your families' traditions? They'll thank you.

Start with the traditions that speak to you, and take it as far as you like. 

"It's your rite!" 

You may find these resources helpful.
Let me share what I've learned!

Here's what I've learned in 20+ years of creating wedding ceremonies, boiled down to two pages of bullet points:

When we start planning your ceremony, I'll share scripts from weddings developed for other couples. You may find ideas for readings, rituals or other elements to incorporate into your own service.


 Don't just tie the knot,  secure the knot!  Please consider coaching as an investment in your life together.

Don't just tie the knot, secure the knot!
Please consider coaching as an investment in your life together.

 

Premarital Coaching

I believe every couple would benefit from one or more sessions with Rachel Lamson. Premarital coaching is an opportunity to get to know one another deeply and explore hypothetical situations to avoid future marital pitfalls. Even couples with a close rapport benefit from delving into conversations they may never consider until a problem emerges.
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Venues
Nothing sets the tone for your wedding as much as the surroundings you choose. Here are some of my favorites among the many places I've experienced.

 Venue; The Sanctuary on Penn--a historic church repurposed as a one-of-a-kind venue.

Venue; The Sanctuary on Penn--a historic church repurposed as a one-of-a-kind venue.

 Courtney Sinclair Photography  Venue: Indiana Memorial Union, Bloomington, Indiana

Courtney Sinclair Photography

Venue: Indiana Memorial Union, Bloomington, Indiana

Photographers

You only get one chance for photos and videos of your wedding. Make sure you have someone with skill, experience and a style that matches your vision. 

Here are some pros I can recommend from experience. You'll find some of their work on this website and gallery.

 

 

 

Musicians & Audio Services

 This guy is versatile! Mario Joven plans in Dukes of Django and numerous other bands.

This guy is versatile!
Mario Joven plans in Dukes of Django and numerous other bands.

My first involvement with weddings was as a musician (classical and folk guitar). I learned how live music can enhance a special occasion, and I'm happy to recommend these pros for your consideration.

 

 
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Florists
Flowers appeal to multiple senses and are an essential part of the event. Here's my go-to vendor for all things floral.

 

 

 

 

 

Wedding Planners & Coordinators
For a simple ceremony, you might get away with a well-organized friend wielding a clipboard. A wedding with numerous moving parts, though, needs a professional to help you plan and track it all -- or at least to provide day-of coordination. These folks can help us all relax and enjoy the moment.

Check back soon as we add more resources for you.
Enjoy planning your special day!

   Dan accompanies daughter Abby at the Phoenix Art Museum

  Dan accompanies daughter Abby at the Phoenix Art Museum

Dan Henkel is an experienced officiant, host, emcee and musician. (See Dan's YouTube channel.)

He is an award-winning communicator for nonprofit organizations and a longtime advocate for equality, the environment and the arts. Indiana governors have recognized Dan as a Distinguished Hoosier and a Sagamore of the Wabash.

Dan is credentialed to officiate in all 50 states. He enjoys co-officiating with his wife, Beth. It was their great joy to once officiate on their own anniversary.

As a professional guitarist in his 20s, Dan enjoyed playing music for the signature events in people's lives. Now, it's his pleasure to help craft and conduct ceremonies that mark life's milestones.

     Setting, script and style: Let's work together to make them your own!      Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

    Setting, script and style: Let's work together to make them your own!

    Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

We would highly recommend Dan. He was very intuitive and created a beautiful ceremony that felt authentic to us while also respecting the various beliefs of our guests. He was also very flexible despite our busy schedules and responded quickly to emails. He offers a selection of his previous ceremonies, which was extraordinarily helpful with planning our own. He is kind, genuine, and was a delightful presence to have on our wedding day.
— Susan and Robby
 George Street Photo & Video Venue: Ritz Charles, Carmel, Indiana

George Street Photo & Video
Venue: Ritz Charles, Carmel, Indiana

 Courtney Sinclair Photography  Venue: Butler Winery, Bloomington, Indiana

Courtney Sinclair Photography

Venue: Butler Winery, Bloomington, Indiana

Dan Henkel was an obvious choice from the very beginning. Since our families come from very diverse backgrounds, we were concerned about having a ceremony that felt alienating to some our guests. However, Dan did a wonderful job of crafting a beautiful and inclusive ceremony that catered to so many different cultures, lifestyles, and nationalities. Throughout the planning process, we also wanted to be very intentional about having an officiant who shared similar values on marriage equality. We were so grateful to stand alongside such an incredible ally who is doing great things in our state. In addition, planning the ceremony was truly effortless. Dan was incredibly quick to respond and provided us with many previous ceremonies to work off of. He incorporated sections we liked from other ceremonies while integrating original elements that we requested. We would highly recommend Dan Henkel to any couples looking for a genuine, caring officiant.
— Niki and Grecia
Dan was wonderful to work with, and we cannot recommend him enough. We feel so incredibly lucky to have had him officiate our wedding! Planning was easy and straightforward, and Dan brought a lovely, thoughtful presence to our ceremony.
— Lisa and Cynthia
 Courtney Sinclair Photography  Venue: Indiana Memorial Union, Bloomington

Courtney Sinclair Photography

Venue: Indiana Memorial Union, Bloomington

 Venue: Balmoral Golf Club, Fishers, Indiana

Venue: Balmoral Golf Club, Fishers, Indiana

Dan is absolutely wonderful and my husband and I HIGHLY recommend him to officiate your wedding. From the first time we talked with him it was clear his goal was to make sure we were happy and comfortable. He took the time to get to know us and know our story. He also made it a point to tailor everything to exactly what we wanted for the ceremony. He was always easy to get hold of and made sure we were able to meet before the wedding. With everything to worry about on your wedding day, Dan made sure the ceremony was not one of them.
— Tara and Waylon
Dan officiated our wedding with joy, respect and a good sense of presence and direction. His perpetual smile made everything a joy! I was able to write, with his suggestions, our own service and then he performed it beautifully! We had a wonderful service filled with joy, laughter and solemnity to create the perfect wedding ceremony. Would we recommend Dan to perform your special day? Absolutely!!
— Kathy and Don
 "If the ring fits, you must commit!"       Venue: Unitarian Universalist Church of Indianapolis

"If the ring fits, you must commit!"      
Venue: Unitarian Universalist Church of Indianapolis

 Jennifer Van Elk Photography    Venue: Highland Country Club, Indianapolis

Jennifer Van Elk Photography   
Venue: Highland Country Club, Indianapolis

We were very happy to have Dan officiate our wedding. We wanted a nondenominational, laidback ceremony. Dan’s experience and relaxed presence made this possible. Our ceremony felt like us. We would recommend anyone to work with Dan on their special day.

— Ben and Zoe
We were so thankful to have both Dan and Beth at our wedding. Dan took the time to make sure our ceremony was exactly how we envisioned and he had ideas every step of the way to help guide us. Where Dan really shined is the day of the wedding where he kept everyone calm and organized. Dan and Beth are such an amazing resource for ceremony planning. Their passion and excitement was genuine and touching.
— Emma and Alex
 Photo: Riley Paulsen         Venue: Grove Haus, Indianapolis

Photo: Riley Paulsen         Venue: Grove Haus, Indianapolis

        Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

       Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

Out of all of the stressful choices we made leading up to our big day, working with Dan and Beth was one of the easiest and best decisions we could have made. We can honestly say, they tailored our ceremony to us in such a beautiful way, that not only was the ceremony perfect for us—it completely transformed the hearts of those in attendance who were still on the fence about same-sex marriage. Thank you, Dan and Beth!!
— Julia and Allison
Dan’s professionalism combined with his warm nature and humor were exactly what we wanted for our wedding service. More than 10 years later, our friends still comment on how beautiful and fun our wedding service was.
— Brook and Corey
    Venue: Sarkine Park, Avon, Indiana

   Venue: Sarkine Park, Avon, Indiana

        Photo: Zach Kowalczyk    Venue: Backyard wedding, Lowell, Indiana

       Photo: Zach Kowalczyk    Venue: Backyard wedding, Lowell, Indiana

At our wedding, Dan not only wrote very moving words for the ceremony and was well prepared, but he was great at leading two brides, 18 attendants, and six musicians through a potentially chaotic rehearsal. It went so smoothly and he made us all feel so confident that on the day of the ceremony, we could relax knowing that we were in good hands.
— Abby and Sarah
From the moment my husband and I met Dan and his wife, Beth, we knew Dan was the perfect fit for us. He listened and considered everything we had to say about our wishes and dreams for our wedding ceremony. He shared ideas, gave suggestions, and allowed us to be creative.
During the wedding day, Dan was part of the groom’s and groomsmen’s support system as we anxiously waited for the ceremony to begin. He spoke with eloquence and made everyone feel comfortable and excited to be in this moment. Unless you are used to performing in front of an audience, the thought of sharing your love and commitment to someone in front of so many people can seem daunting, but Dan created a smooth ebb and flow that allowed us to be fully enraptured in our moment.
— Jacquie and Tom
 
    Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

   Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

        Advocating equality -- celebrating progress.        Venue: Indiana LGBT Wedding Expo

       Advocating equality -- celebrating progress.
       Venue: Indiana LGBT Wedding Expo

When marriage equality was affirmed, Indiana rejoiced. The celebration continues as couples profess their love – now legally recognized – before friends and family. As an equality activist, PFLAG dad and longtime wedding officiant, I’m here for you.

My first ceremony as an officiant (1995) had two brides. The next had two grooms. Over the years, it's been my privilege – sometimes co-officiating with my wife, Beth – to help loving same-sex and mixed-sex couples unite. To me, each union is unique and personal, and each holds the universal hope for a rich life together.

I'm a member of the Indy Rainbow Chamber and proud to support Indianapolis PFLAG, Indiana Equality,Indianapolis and Bloomington Pride, Indiana Youth Group, Lambda Legal and the Human Rights Coalition.

Let’s discuss the possibilities.

Whether or not I have a role in starting your life together, please accept my congratulations and best wishes.

I am based in central Indiana and happy to travel for your ceremony.

Dan Henkel, officiant

To begin planning or just ask questions, please start by sending Dan an email

He'll get back with you quickly. (There's no obligation, of course.)

 

 Dan and Beth created their own wedding ceremony in 1981 and enjoy serving as co-officiants.

Dan and Beth created their own wedding ceremony in 1981 and enjoy serving as co-officiants.