Do you want:

  • An occasion that’s uniquely yours – not scripted or formulaic? 

  • A ritual involving practices from diverse traditions?

  • A ceremony that is secular, or perhaps spiritual but outside mainstream religious tradition?

  • To bridge faiths or cultural traditions in a way that is respectful, yet  authentically your own?

Let's make it happen!

You and your beloved will gather those who are closest to you to mark the start of your life as a couple. That moment –what is said and sung; the smiles and tears and little rituals – is a symbol of your lifelong journey together.

Making this occasion uniquely yours signals to those present that they are witnessing a profound and timeless rite. It honors tradition while putting your stamp on the public expression of your love.

    Two brides, two grooms, or one of each.       Dan can help you create a ceremony that reflects what is most meaningful to you as a couple.     Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

    Two brides, two grooms, or one of each. 
     Dan can help you create a ceremony that reflects what is most meaningful to you as a couple.

    Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

Let's make your wedding one to remember!

I have enjoyed uniting loving couples since 1995. As a credentialed officiant, it is my special joy to conduct personalized weddings and union rituals for traditional and same-sex couples.

Together, we’ll create a ceremony that expresses who you are as a couple. We can draw on a rich repertoire of services, readings and traditions or start from scratch. Whether yours is a simple ceremony among intimates or an elaborate ritual with many moving parts, I can work with you to craft a wedding that is meaningful to you and those celebrating with you.

We begin with a discussion of those elements you know you want in your ceremony, and the people you want to involve. You choose the style, tone and setting; we'll collaborate on a script that conveys who you are as a couple.

The readings, prayers, songs and vows may be centuries old or created for your occasion. You may opt for ritual elements such as the binding of hands, lighting candles or warming the rings. The setting can be a backyard or a cathedral – perhaps where you met or studied. Weaving all this together can be a greater challenge than the logistics of inviting, feeding and entertaining your guests, but it is profoundly more significant. Done well, it feeds a lifetime of memories.

Jennifer Van Elk Photography    Venue: Highland Country Club, Indianapolis

Jennifer Van Elk Photography   
Venue: Highland Country Club, Indianapolis

We were very happy to have Dan officiate our wedding. We wanted a nondenominational, laidback ceremony. Dan’s experience and relaxed presence made this possible. Our ceremony felt like us. We would recommend anyone to work with Dan on their special day.

— Ben and Zoe
        "If the ring fits, you must commit!"      Venue: Unitarian Universalist Church of Indianapolis

        "If the ring fits, you must commit!"      Venue: Unitarian Universalist Church of Indianapolis

Dan officiated our wedding with joy, respect and a good sense of presence and direction. His perpetual smile made everything a joy! I was able to write, with his suggestions, our own service and then he performed it beautifully! We had a wonderful service filled with joy, laughter and solemnity to create the perfect wedding ceremony. Would we recommend Dan to perform your special day? Absolutely!!
— Kathy and Don
We were so thankful to have both Dan and Beth at our wedding. Dan took the time to make sure our ceremony was exactly how we envisioned and he had ideas every step of the way to help guide us. Where Dan really shined is the day of the wedding where he kept everyone calm and organized. Dan and Beth are such an amazing resource for ceremony planning. Their passion and excitement was genuine and touching.
— Emma and Alex
Photo: Riley Paulsen         Venue: Grove Haus, Indianapolis

Photo: Riley Paulsen         Venue: Grove Haus, Indianapolis

       Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

       Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

Out of all of the stressful choices we made leading up to our big day, working with Dan and Beth was one of the easiest and best decisions we could have made. We can honestly say, they tailored our ceremony to us in such a beautiful way, that not only was the ceremony perfect for us—it completely transformed the hearts of those in attendance who were still on the fence about same-sex marriage. Thank you, Dan and Beth!!
— Julia and Allison
Dan’s professionalism combined with his warm nature and humor were exactly what we wanted for our wedding service. More than 10 years later, our friends still comment on how beautiful and fun our wedding service was.
— Brook and Corey
   Venue: Sarkine Park, Avon, Indiana

   Venue: Sarkine Park, Avon, Indiana

       Photo: Zach Kowalczyk    Venue: Backyard wedding, Lowell, Indiana

       Photo: Zach Kowalczyk    Venue: Backyard wedding, Lowell, Indiana

At our wedding, Dan not only wrote very moving words for the ceremony and was well prepared, but he was great at leading two brides, 18 attendants, and six musicians through a potentially chaotic rehearsal. It went so smoothly and he made us all feel so confident that on the day of the ceremony, we could relax knowing that we were in good hands.
— Abby and Sarah
From the moment my husband and I met Dan and his wife, Beth, we knew Dan was the perfect fit for us. He listened and considered everything we had to say about our wishes and dreams for our wedding ceremony. He shared ideas, gave suggestions, and allowed us to be creative.
During the wedding day, Dan was part of the groom’s and groomsmen’s support system as we anxiously waited for the ceremony to begin. He spoke with eloquence and made everyone feel comfortable and excited to be in this moment. Unless you are used to performing in front of an audience, the thought of sharing your love and commitment to someone in front of so many people can seem daunting, but Dan created a smooth ebb and flow that allowed us to be fully enraptured in our moment.
— Jacquie and Tom
 
   Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

   Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

  Dan accompanies daughter Abby at the Phoenix Art Museum

  Dan accompanies daughter Abby at the Phoenix Art Museum

Dan Henkel is an experienced officiant, host, emcee and musician. (See Dan's YouTube channel.)

He is an award-winning communicator for nonprofit organizations and a longtime advocate for equality and the arts. Indiana governors have recognized Dan as a Distinguished Hoosier and a Sagamore of the Wabash.

Dan is credentialed to officiate in all 50 states. He enjoys co-officiating with his wife, Beth. It was their great joy to once officiate on their own anniversary.

As a professional guitarist in his 20s, Dan enjoyed playing music for the signature events in people's lives. Now, it's his pleasure to help craft and conduct ceremonies that mark life's milestones. (And he just might play a tune if the occasion calls for it.)

    Setting, script and style: Let's work together to make them your own!     Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

    Setting, script and style: Let's work together to make them your own!

    Photo: Ryan Breeden    Venue: The Propylaeum, Indianapolis

       Advocating equality -- celebrating progress.        Venue: Indiana LGBT Wedding Expo

       Advocating equality -- celebrating progress.
       Venue: Indiana LGBT Wedding Expo

When marriage equality was affirmed, Indiana rejoiced. The celebration continues as couples profess their love – now legally recognized – before friends and family. As an equality activist, PFLAG dad and longtime wedding officiant, I’m here for you.

My first ceremony as an officiant (1995) had two brides. The next had two grooms. Over the years, it's been my privilege – sometimes co-officiating with my wife, Beth – to help loving same-sex and mixed-sex couples unite. To me, each union is unique and personal, and each holds the universal hope for a rich life together.

I'm a member of the Indy Rainbow Chamber and proud to support Indianapolis PFLAG, Indiana Equality,Indianapolis and Bloomington Pride, Indiana Youth Group, Lambda Legal and the Human Rights Coalition.

Let’s discuss the possibilities.

Whether or not I have a role in starting
your life together, please accept my congratulations and best wishes.

I am based in central Indiana and happy
to travel for your ceremony.

Dan Henkel, officiant

Contact Dan

 

Dan and Beth created their own wedding ceremony in 1981 and enjoy serving as co-officiants.

Dan and Beth created their own wedding ceremony in 1981 and enjoy serving as co-officiants.

           What a moment! Dan signs and submits the documents so your marriage is officially recorded.             Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

           What a moment! Dan signs and submits the documents so your marriage is officially recorded.

            Photo: www.whitesharkphoto.com

To begin planning or just ask questions, please start by sending Dan an email

He'll get back with you quickly. (There's no obligation, of course.)